If you have been concentrating for a long time on trying to have a child, ending the struggle can feel as if you are giving up or have lost. Couples often talk of a feeling of personal guilt and shame if they have to give up on their long-term aim. This can be heightened if family and friends do not understand this need to let go. But in the final analysis, couples have to remain focused on what is best for them. The decision to continue without children is a personal one, one that can only be taken by you and your partner.

The decision to end your struggle with infertility can, in time, give you the feeling that you are taking control of your life - once again. Once the period of infertility treatments is over, many couples notice that other doors open to new opportunities. They have the chance to set themselves new goals and to pursue other dreams and ambitions that were put on hold in expectation of a pregnancy.

Accepting the decision to live without children is something that both partners must reach. Specialist psychological help can be helpful to reach this acceptance and to help you deal with it.

Books

If you want to know more about the background of living with childlessness, you can get advice in the bookshop or library.